Anything we do, including “self-sabotage,” we do with positive intent. Our brain, at some level, conscious or unconscious, is always trying to benefit us in some way through its actions. An example of this might be if you consistently pull back right before you’re about to have your greatest success—yet this is not your brain trying to hurt you. It may simply be trying to protect you from succeeding and putting yourself in the position of needing to continue do so; i.e., your fear of success may actually be protecting you from a situation where you may ultimately feel rejected. It’s important to realize the intent is good. Your brain is “on your side.” You must simply condition it to be more effective.

 

Things donot change. We change.

Every time we feel or we come to realize that we are self-sabotaging, we should mark it down and think it over. If that’s the case, change it back to the right way as it should be.

 

There are three primary ways you can create self-confidence at any moment:

1. The quickest way is to make a radical change in your physiology: intense, radical changes in breathing, gestures, movement, and facial expressions.

 

2. Control your mental focus. The fastest way to change what you’re focusing on is to change the questions you’re asking yourself. Change from, “What happens if I fail at this?” or ~Why do I always screw these things up?” to “What’s the best way to get this done now?” or better yet, “What’s the best way to get this done and enjoy the process?”

 

3. Change your core beliefs. Change from, “I’ve never done it before so I don’t see how I could do it today,” to “If I can imagine it, I can achieve it.”

 

What you can imagine, what you can achieve.

 

Jeff

22 Apr, 2008

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