Conflict and Balance


冲突不可避免,这是事物向前发展的一个必然产物。

很不幸,它感觉起来不是太爽;

很庆幸,因为我看到它了。如果没有冲突,事情又怎么向前发展呢?

跟往常一样,我还是会静静地思考为什么会出现冲突,如何解决它并且让这个冲突能够发挥它最大的价值。当然,像大多数冲突一样,问题其实不大,关键是只要有一方愿意冷静下来思考,并踏出化解冲突的第一步(这不需要一定是妥协或者让步),事情往往都能够朝向积极的方向去发展。

作为Project Director,我深深地感觉到我的不足:

A leader’s job is to see possibilities and to help people seize possibilities. (by Carly Fiorina)

经过长久以来的努力,我觉得在see possibilities方面我做得还可以,不过help people seize possibilities我还是亟待提高。

Leadership, leadership…很容易懂,做起来难,做到更难!

我一直在回味Jensen Huang (CEO of NVIDIA)的一句话: Building a company is extra-ordinary a great of fun, and it is also incredibly hard.

我的觉悟是,如果我不能对即将来临的困难与挑战处理好,那样不如早点偃旗息鼓,乖乖地做个好员工,再做个好梦。(Unless I am ready for all the hardship and difficulty coming to me, I would be better off if I let it go and be a good employee. That’s pretty easy and let my dream be my dream always.

I don’t wanna be a try-to-do person, I will make every attempt to fight for my dream!

Jeff Wang

What We Can Imagine, What We Can Achieve!

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最近一个星期工作很顺利,同时也升职了,嘿嘿。我现在也算是有ger级的头衔。

通过参与John Dorris的NLP event,我意识到自己经常给自己设置一些障碍,尤其是心里方面的。总觉得前面会有很多不可克服的困难,或者就是我的年龄太小,经验不够,跟总监级的人交流会找不着北。

其实,这些都是自己给自己找的。

我的经验是,这不是我第一次发现自己有这样的倾向,但是我第一次有这么强烈的意愿觉得我一定要解决这个问题的时候。当然,这个时机是由于我工作上的压力,我如果不能在这方面有所突破,那接下来的工作不能做好。

过年的时候,跟以前同学聊起如何跟人在商务上打好关系,我意识到关系这东西不可能一蹴而就,有缘的话能很快做好,没有共同爱好的话,得有足够的耐心去培养。当时,我已下定决心要把这工作做好,虽然脑海中还没有一个清晰的思路怎么样才能做好。但我明白一点,这个世界上很多事情都不会有perfect plan,有些时候得走了一步,才能有第二步可走。You never know until you try.

机缘巧合,我在NLP event认识了Michael,我的兄弟。他是一个很有经验的coach,普通话说得很好的美国人。我们中间有着Make China a better place的共同愿景,这也是我们之间的connection。在跟他吃饭的过程中,他帮我找到了我的Magic Key,这应该是一把make things happen的magic key。 (I love you, Michael)

每个人的Magic Key应该会有所不同。我对自己的工作很尽心,因些谈到我自己擅长的领域的时候,我可以神采飞扬,双眼发光,像Michael说的就是”your face is shining, and with Pride!”。因为我说这话的时候,我知道自己在做什么,我知道自己在这方面是一流的专家,有凭有据,底气十足。那种自豪感和自信,make a difference. 所以我的Magic Key是自豪感以及专业。

而在这两周的工作中,当我心里上的障碍被突破了之后,我觉得真的是如鱼得水。所有事情都很顺利,但其实,除了我自己的心态变化了之外,其它外在因素都没有什么变化。

这是我跟一哥们的合照,我觉得挺开心,因为我真把他当朋友看待了。真心的!

志海 and Jeff Wang

Zhihai and Jeff Wang

而所谓的人与人之间的关系,即使是商务的往来,也没有我之前想像的那么复杂。有时候,用心就能交到很多朋友拉!

我自己的总结:

1. 做事情能有完整的计划当然是最好的;

2. 有些事情只能是一个模糊的概念,尤其是涉及到人的因素,因为人很主观,也很非理性。只有踏出第一步,才会有第二步。You never know until you try!

3. 要有耐心,罗马也不是一天就建成的呀。重要的是,Get it going and keep it going!

Jeff Wang

12 Mar 2010

What We Can Imagine, What We Can Achieve!

The recent struggle on whether or not stay at my current company, or switch to another company so that I can earn more, to relieve family financial burden and prepare for marriage, has been a pain in my neck and I am now suffering from it every day.

I know my career goal, I know what I have been doing, and I know I am on the right track in terms of career.

My mom keeps reminding me that I have to, and I can make more money, so that I can relieve family financial burden and get ready for marriage.

My girlfriend keeps “stimulating” me to quit my current job and look for another higher paid one. Meanwhile, I was told that I deserve more payment since there are a lot of people around who are not as good as me, while at the same time, they earn much more than I do.

Well, it’s tough to be a nice guy all the time.

Stick to my dream and career? I would be considered selfish.

Take my mom and girlfriend’s advice? How can I afford to leave my current company since there are good opportunity and good team mates.

Someone says that I may first find a good job and then decide to quit, which is a safe play. Pretty safe, but I don’t want to do it with my boss, who is a very nice one and coaching me all the time. There is something more than just a boss and his employee.

Someone tried to convince me that I am too ideal and silly to raise this issue honesty to my supervisor, who indeed, I believe he is not just my supervisor. I also see him as my friend and mentor too. I believe in him and my boss. They are the ones who make my current company so much different from others. Because here is a place where things happen, a place where your voice could be heard as long as you raise your hand, a place where something I was told in the book could also be true.

There is no perfect solution. And my conclusion is that it’s only a matter of choice. Take either one of them, and then enjoy it.

Jeff Wang
5 Mar, 2009

Resourcefulness

By Steve Pavlina

Source: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/03/resourcefulness/

The author analyzed the Inner Resources VS. Outer Resources, suggesting what to choose in different stages of people’s lives.

And it’s extremly inspiring and useful for me at the current stage when negotiating with my management team about my second-year compensation package, as a 20s.

Jeff

27 Mar, 2008

People always have conflict between thing A and thing B. This time for me, thing A is Love, thing B is Career.

Great Opportunity Ahead 

I got a rare opportunity to work with my boss in Shanghai, that means a lot of learnings. If everything goes well, Jeff will be improving day after day, since my boss is a very great mentor for me.

What About Love?

Jeff got a girlfriend, a very nice girlfriend. Going to Shanghai means risk of break-up, at least cannot stay together for more than one year, while these days it is really hard to find true love in the material world.

Um…Love and Career, a tough question ahead now…How am I supposed to handle this? I just cannot afford to let go either one of them. However, I must make a decision. Can I have them both? Perhaps not.

What a conflict! Who can give me some advice on this so personal affairs?

Is there any good solution…

Jeff

3 Mar, 2008